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Children & gender identity


* Introduction *
We are starting to see desisters (those who stop identifying as transgender) and detransitioners (those who had undergone medical procedures, regretted it, and tried to reverse course). No statistics are available on how often this happens.
(Source: "Trans Science: A review of Abigail Shrier’s Irreversible Damage")

Physicians providing gender transition of youth claim that they have never met a detransitioned patient. This is not surprising: recent research with detransitioners indicated that three-quarters do not return to the treating providers to tell them about detransition. According to recent UK and US data, 10–30% of recently transitioned individuals detransition a few years after they initiated transition.

Regret is a common, if not universal, human experience. Individuals who underwent medical transition are no exception. Regret does not preclude benefits, which typically appear first. The “honeymoon period” can last from several months to several years, with adverse effects emerging 8–10 years following transition among mature adult transitioners. Among the more recently transitioning cohorts comprised primarily of youth, there appears to be a shorter time to regret and a subsequent desire to detransition, around 3–6 years on average, with longer time to regret and detransition among biological males.
(Source: "Current Concerns About Gender-Affirming Therapy in Adolescents")
Detransitioners have experienced a dramatic journey of self-acceptance and an unpopular trip to transition and back. Upon transitioning, we felt an overwhelming degree of affirmation from doctors, mental health practitioners, and friends. But on the other side, those cheering voices are silent and our existence is ignored. We’re here to cheer for each other.

Some say that detransition is very rare. Others refuse to acknowledge that we exist. We want all to see that we are a group that is rapidly growing. Our unique health care needs are ignored by the same professionals that were eager to medicalize us. We are not going to hide in the shadows. We deserve ethical medical treatment.
(Source: "Detrans Awareness Day")

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* Chloe & Soren *
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Chloe Cole, a detransitioner from Central Valley, Calif., began identifying as a boy at 12 years old. Doctors prescribed her puberty blockers and hormones starting at age 13. At 15, before her breasts were even fully developed, doctors performed a double mastectomy. Only a short time after surgery, Chloe started having regrets about her medical transition. But in some ways, it was too late. Chloe is now 18 years old and back to living as a woman, but is still struggling to come to terms with the medical coercion that took something "beautiful and uniquely female" away from her.
(Source: "Chloe Cole: 'I'm Still Recovering' From Hormones, Surgery at 15 - YouTube")

Soren began identifying as transgender at 11 years old. She started hormone replacement therapy at 17, and by 19, underwent surgery to remove her healthy breasts.

Now 21, Soren looks back on her medical transition with regret. Her traumatic medical complications opened her eyes to the ills of “gender-affirming care,” which she said enabled her to believe hormones and surgery could provide her with the sense of self she craved growing up. Detransitioned and now working to heal her complex emotions through mindfulness, Soren has become a vocal advocate against the “enabling” she sees happening within the gender medical industry.
(Source: "Soren's story: How One Detransitioner Found Peace Outside of Medicalization")
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* Sex Change Regret *
Up to 20% have regrets about their “sex change.” Sex change procedures are not effective, say researchers. Ten to 15 years after surgical reassignment, the suicide rate is 20 times that of comparable peers. So many people who change genders realize later that abuse in their lives contributed to their gender distress feelings. Changing genders is not the proper treatment for overcoming childhood trauma or abuse.
(Source: "Sex Change Regret")

A biological man who underwent "gender-affirming care" 40 years ago said that the surgery nearly destroyed his life and slammed the profit-driven nature of surrounding transgenderism in the American medical and political landscape. "When you hit the regret button, you can't put the pieces back," Walt Heyer, an American author, activist and speaker, told Fox News Digital. According to Heyer, three main driving factors exist for people to identify as transgender.
  • The first is a social contagion, a factor that is more likely to effect preteens or teens. "They do it because their friends do it. Sometimes the school or schools are doing the indoctrination. So, I tell parents, take your kids out of school," Heyer said.
  • The second is internet exposure to media apps such as TikTok, where teens and young adults engage with sexually charged gaming experiences, anime, and a plethora of transgender-oriented groups. Heyer compared transgenderism to the rise of the Goth trend in the mid-2000s. But, while Goth was simply cosmetic and non-invasive, Heyer said transgenderism is both "harmful and very destructive."
  • The third factor driving people towards transgenderism, Heyer said, is the impact of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), a term which the Centers for Disease Control describes as a "potentially traumatic event" that occurs between the ages of 0 and 17.
(Source: "Detransitioner slams clinics, media for politicizing 'gender affirming care'")

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* Related resources *
Trans Science: A review of Abigail Shrier’s Irreversible Damage - A review by Dr. Harriet Hall of Abigail Shrier’s 2020 book Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters.

Current Concerns About Gender-Affirming Therapy in Adolescents - Results of long-term studies of adult transgender populations failed to demonstrate convincing improvements in mental health, and some studies suggest that there are treatment-associated harms.

Detransition: The Wounds That Won't Heal - Chloe Cole was indoctrinated, affirmed, and set on an irreparable path at the age of 15, and now finds herself abandoned by the community and the doctors that lead her over the edge.

Source: Dr Jordan B Peterson - Youtube | Date: Jan 3, 2023

Detransitioner Chloe Cole Gives Powerful Testimony Against ‘Gender-Affirming Care’ - An 18-year-old detransitioned woman gave a powerful testimony on Tuesday against the “gender affirming” model of care that led to her irreversible medical transition as an adolescent.

Source: The Daily Wire | Date: Sep 20, 2022

Detransitioners sue medical providers over body-mutilating sex-change surgeries - Two detransitioners have taken legal action against the healthcare providers that they claim pushed them to pursue surgical gender transitions instead of offering mental health treatment.

Source: The Christian Post

Soren's story: How One Detransitioner Found Peace Outside of Medicalization - After undergoing a botched double mastectomy at age 19, Soren’s traumatic medical complications opened her eyes to the ills of so-called “gender affirming care.” Read her Identity Crisis story

Source: Independent Women's Forum

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